Why Music Is Becoming A Big Part of Online Dating
Music has long been thought of as the language of love, because a song can convey emotion even without a single word in the lyrics. Using that contextual background of musical cues, each conversation also becomes infused with the kind of passion that can spark the embers of a hot first date into the roaring long-term intensity of a great relationship. Having common musical interests is also a great sign of long-term compatibility in any couple. If you are a rap god, and she is only into country music, you both may be better off finding lovers who share the same tune as you before you even get started on a first dating adventure together.
When to Ask for the First Date
The simple answer is any time you get the urge. Way too many men and “relationship experts’ overthink the idea of when to ask. The fact is dating is mostly a numbers game. The more first dates you go on, the better your chances are of finding the right mate. Waiting for the perfect moment like they do on a television sitcom will cause you to miss out on too many opportunities and also prevents you from seeking other first dates while you are busy pining away for that one special someone and a moment when all the stars align for you to ask her out.
Just step up to the plate and take your best swing by politely asking if she is interested in going out for a cup of coffee sometime. It’s not hard, and if you do get rejected, you should be thick skinned enough to simply brush it off and step back up to ask someone else. Asking someone out isn’t a chore or a reason to get nervous, the worst that can happen is she says no and you simply ask someone else instead. It really is that easy.
What about the Phone?
The phone is a tool, and like any tool it needs to be used only for the right jobs. You wouldn’t use a screwdriver to hammer a nail into a wood board or try to hang your curtains with electrical tape. For that same reason, you should never break up with anyone by phone or ask for a first date over the phone unless it is absolutely necessary.
The phone is a convenient way to share more time together than you can in person. Following up after a first date, getting to know each other, enjoying time while you are away as if you were there in person. It’s a great way to extend your first date into the next phase of your relationship, but its not personal enough as a venue to ask someone out usually.
Also keep in mind that texting can be very tricky. Your use of an emoji or a less than artful word choice can quickly be misinterpreted disastrously. At least at first, always opt to speak by voice until you know each other well enough to develop the level of trust that allows you to have an occasional typo be forgiven.
First Date Length
The length of your first date will vary based on her reactions. Is she lonely today, does she want someone to keep her company tonight, or is she just scouting you out and looking to gather her thoughts afterward in a moment of solitary introspection? The only way to know is to watch for the signals she gives, and to react to what she is telling you with her body language. If you aren’t sure, ask, and let her tell you what she wants. It shows you care enough to keep her comfortable and that’s a key element of any successful first date.
First Date Locations
The best place to go on a first date is somewhere you have been many times before. Eliminate variables by taking her to a restaurant where you already know the food will be good, or a movie theater you know is clean and nice, or a park you can show her around from experience. The more at ease you are with the surroundings, the easier it will be to show her your best on any upcoming first dates!